Posts Tagged picking up
So I tried online dating again last week, and I’ve immediately remembered why I gave up on it in a fit of shame. Literally the only women I can get to talk to me, are fake! Everyone else clicks the generic “Not interested” button as soon as they get a look at my pictures, which is again kind of depressing. Then every now and then someone will talk to me, but they are obviously fake.
I understand that most women are totally spammed by men, for better or worse, but at least you have a choice! Just isn’t working for the non-attractive male so well haha, but at least I can have a little fun with it:
Haha yes, that is me, telling fake profiles I’m investigating them. They block ya pretty quick!
My possible three date week turned into a zero date week in the end! Allow me to explain.
My first date was Wednesday, but really turned out not to be a date. Her body language wasn’t right, said a few odd things and at least one insulting thing to me, and flat out refused to let me pay more than half of the food we ate. I thought she was a nice and interesting enough person, but certainly no sparks on her side of things so I didn’t get too interested.
So right after that I jumped on public transport back to the office and remembered that one of the three girls had asked me to drinks the week before, so feeling crap I sent her a message and asked her to drinks! Normally I’d never try anything this brave, meeting two women I’d not met before in one day is about all the stress this poor fool can take.
Get this, she was literally eating at the place I had just left with the other girl when I sent her the message! Small world. She was still eating and would be an hour at least, but she agreed, and we met up at a tavern at 10:45pm. We had a few drinks and chatted for about an hour, she had a bad cough though and I didn’t want to make her stay too long so I packed up and we went our seperate ways. She is Taiwanese and the language barrier, here for only 6 months, was interesting. There was a lot of nodding and smiling along from both of us haha, that will take some getting use to. At least she is still keen on meting again, so I am sure we will soon… For a real date.
The third date delayed due to flu, it is going around, so I was off the hook there.
It is also worth to note, that I have not met anyone for the first time before where I just go and grab a few drinks with them. Much more relaxing than meeting and going to a full out dinner together. I’m not cheap, just awkward!
I’m not exactly sure how this happened. Next week I will have three first dates, if I want them, and seemingly by dumb luck? Well, I just checked my online dating profiles and of course as usual, not a thing. It has been even more depressing there than usual of late, I haven’t been able to get anyone to chat with me in over a month. Every day, nothing but not interested.
So how did I get three dates? I grabbed this cheap dodgy looking chat application, it does a geo search and pulls back people close to your physical location to chat to. There are people from all walks of life and I’ve done some really good chats. So much so that after one week of chatting people, next week I have three women who would love to go out with me. One has already asked me out for drinks first!
They all have my picture, and are pretty girls, so it makes me ask the question what is wrong with dating sites! Mine does not, but do others have a mentality shift when the log into dating sites? Do they switch to an extreme, must be this for that because I’m getting what I want or something? These three girls in a lot of cases are a lot more attractive than girls I’ve tried to contact on dating sites too. It just seems that I win people over if I am able to talk to them which I am not able to do on dating sites, don’t think they can get pat my ugly mug or something!
Well I can’t think too much about it, I’ll just get more confused in my poor little male brain 🙂 I should count my luck now that after 9/10 months of not a single drink or date with anyone I’ve got suddenly three I need to somehow organize. Totally unexpected!
Yup, a few weeks past 6 months has now gone by for me without any sex. My last bedtime fun was with the South American, only it didn’t turn out really to be any fun at all. Before that, it was over two years. That makes a total of sex, once, in the past three years. Awesome.
I am not involved in any adult dating sites, Tinder included. SeekingArrangement really allowed me to talk to and have a few initial dates with women very easily, but what came next didn’t come so easily or naturally and I wasn’t enjoying guessing at Arrangements so I’m now off SA until further notice. With standard dating sites, 9 out of every 10 attempts at contacting result in an immediate not interested half of which are blocks. The other 1 out of 10 person who accepts seems only interested in chatting never meeting.
Dating without online assistance isn’t an option. I work too much, don’t go out enough on my own or at all with friends. You might think I am the most uninteresting and unattractive person in the world to have this kind of a problem.
And I would probably agree with you at this point, because I’m not quite sure what I’m doing so wrong! Oh well. Keep trying to self improve and don’t give up is all I can do despite feeling like I’m %100 unwanted.
Tinder has nearly killed Online Dating. For a number of reasons, but the biggest reason being that everyone now uses that pretty much. First and foremost I am an ugly bastard and that being the case I can’t use tinder as such, so I don’t like it and won’t try it. Yet. I also think it can make my issues worse if I don’t start using it at the right time. Some of you know me a bit, self admittedly my confidence is pretty low and I’m made out of glass. I could start chatting to anyone for any number of reasons, just when things are going great bam, never hear from the person again. Without knowing why or understanding, I’m left with one simple choice and that is to blame myself. So in another year or two it might be possible to jump into tinder or the next best thing, but I need to look better and maybe even literally pay someone to be honest with me for a change about a few questions I have about myself.
Anyway, that isn’t going to stop me at having a little fun on behalf of Tinder though.
Here is the next template I’ve created for my Online Dating profiles, you might recognize the theme pretty easily…
Help me Obi-wan XXX, you’re my only hope…
It is a dark time for dating.
Although the MySpace has
been destroyed, Professional
Swipers have driven the
Decent people from their
sites and pursued them across
Evading the dreaded Swiper
Fingerfleet, a group of freedom
fighters led by Date Awesomer
has established a new secret
base on the remote site
The evil lord Lefty Righty,
obsessed with finding young
Awesomer, has dispatched
thousands of fingers to the
far reaches of the Internets…
Right, so the picture above is pretty standard. Going by half to three quarters of every girl’s profile out there stating for the above and similar qualities are not desired, I would guess it is a real issue for them. Well I am here to say that there are crazy women out there as well, and ass-holes, girls can totally be ass-holes too!
Two days ago I clicked the old Like/Kiss/Hey you button on an interesting sounding profile. No pics. I sent my pics. I got a reply and pics back, much to my surprise she was quite a good looking girl. Though seemed kind of forward about a few things and with questions being fired at me right out of the gate. Fine, I see your questions and I raise you awesome answers.
Anyway she, and I use that term loosely because it really could be a dude, started asking questions about sex on the first date. Would I do that? I told her I honestly don’t know, it would depend on the person and the situation. Basically my short answer is yes, but if you’re fucking Annie Wilkes then my ass is out of there! Pelts me with a few more questions, I answer, and then she says “too bad we’re only friends” – Oh really? News to me, fine so be it, friends. Chatted a bit more and left it at that.
Yesterday afternoon… This happens(green: her – blue: me):
Riiiight… Why am I still chatting with this person I think to myself. I go to bed, because she didn’t have anything else to say after “k.”
I get home from a late night at a family overnighter and have a nap. Wake up way too late now in the evening and log in, and she starts pelting me with more odd questions and chat I was getting tired of, then this:
Then that is it, no reply. So what do you all think. Crazy? Or ass-hole?
Recent experiences, some I’ve detailed here and some I have not, have clearly shown there to be some kind of defect where it involves me interacting with a woman I believe is cute or like in any way shape or form. This is a big problem. I quite obviously need some education on the matter despite my age before I have the confidence to actually do this for myself in more real world situations.
To help combat my issues, I’ve decided to sign up to SA. I have no idea if this is the right thing to do or not, or if it will even help me but at this point I’m kind of feeling that nothing is going to make me any worse!
I’ve filled out my details and I’ve had a quick browse over a few profiles, I’ve not initiated contact as of yet but already there is a girl who has made contact with me… Already SA feels different, I’ve given up on internet dating a long long time ago because it felt like I had to beg to even get to chat with someone and I’m not about that at all.
Well… Here it goes, wish me luck, I’ll sure need it!